The Vikings didn’t share our modern ideals of the equality of men and women and the freedom of individuals to act outside of their gender’s typical societal role. Instead, they generally gave men a higher social position than women, and they believed that an individual’s worth largely consisted of how well he or she fulfilled the role of the gender/sex to which he or she belonged.
As with all social norms everywhere, there were exceptions; there were a few individual Norse men and women who acted against their society’s gender norms. Some of them even don’t seem to have been looked down upon by the wider society for it. But so as to not have this article turn into an entire book, we’ll just be focusing on the widespread, general rules rather than the few exceptions.
Marriage proposals were initiated by men, and the families of the suitor and his desired bride then got together and negotiated the terms of the marriage. The bride-to-be didn’t have much of any say in the process; her family negotiated on her behalf, with their aims, and not necessarily hers, in mind. She wasn’t even allowed to decide whether to accept or reject a particular suitor in the first place.
Adultery was almost always impermissible for a woman, and according to the laws of some Viking provincial law codes, if a husband caught his wife in the act of adultery, he could legally kill both her and her lover. Some Viking law codes contained punishments for husbands caught in the act of adultery as well, but some didn’t. However, men’s extramarital affairs generally received less social censure than women’s. Indeed, it was commonplace for chieftains and kings to have multiple wives and even concubines. An extreme case is the Norwegian Earl Hakon of Lade, who is said to have ordered his subjects to send their daughters to him for his pleasure. He would bed each one for a week or two before sending her back to her family.
Divorce was common, relatively easy, and could be initiated by either the man or the woman. If the woman initiated the divorce over some wrongdoing by her husband, she was entitled to significant monetary compensation from him to ensure that she had a means of providing for herself once she was single again. So women who found themselves stuck in unhappy marriage arrangements at least had a way out.
But if a woman had ambitions that lay outside of the realms of caring for children and performing her share of the seemingly countless, endless, dreary, physically demanding tasks involved in maintaining a Viking farmstead, she was almost always out of luck. To be sure, men had their own share of these tasks.
The difference, however, was that men could often take up other roles in addition to or instead of that of a farmer if they so chose. Most women had little to no choice in taking up the life of a housewife.
Most importantly in a Viking Age context, however, only men fought in battle. Only men could become warriors and travel to lands far from their farms with their warband to fight on behalf of the warband’s leader. The only thing women did on a Viking Age battlefield was flee so they wouldn’t be raped by the victorious army.
Some people have hoped to find in the warlike valkyries a mythical image of female warriors that had some counterpart in historical reality. But the historical, human counterpart of the valkyries wasn’t female warriors. Rather, it was sorceresses, who used magic with the intent of influencing the outcome of battle but didn’t physically participate in it.
Speaking of magic – and in particular seidr, which was virtually synonymous with Norse magic as such – this was one social role outside of the home that was essentially reserved for women at the exclusion of men. There were men who practiced magic, but they were passionately despised by the wider society, and in some cases were even killed by their own families for the extreme dishonor their practices brought upon their families. This was because magic was seen as tantamount to homosexuality (for reasons that are too complex to go into in an article of this sort), and homosexuality was seen as tantamount to effeminacy and cowardice – traits that were scorned like few others by the macho warrior society of the Viking Age. But since women were already effeminate, and weren’t expected to be as brave as their men, there wasn’t any particular shame in a woman practicing magic. (For a full discussion of this point, see my book The Viking Spirit: An Introduction to Norse Mythology and Religion.)
Men and women were both judged based on how well they performed their expected societal roles. For men, this meant being a manly, honorable warrior and/or farmer. For women, this meant excelling at her housekeeping duties. This work wasn’t looked down upon back then in the same way that it so often is in our society, however; the woman who was a capable mother and housewife was genuinely appreciated and held in high regard by her family and by society as a whole, and her work was genuinely valued.
Nevertheless, that rather humble kind of work doesn’t exactly lend itself to the level of prestige and renown that accomplished warriors, explorers, and rulers enjoyed. The deeds of such great men were remembered and celebrated in song, poetry, and runic inscriptions on stone monuments, all of which are proverbial for their ability to stand the test of time and serve as a kind of half-immortality for the commemorated person. The great housewives, however, had no songs sung about them, no poems recited about them, and no monuments erected to them. In the cases where runestones preserve the names of women, those women were simply the ones who had the stones commissioned on behalf of their male relatives.
There were some very high-status women in the Viking Age, even if they generally acquired that status through the passive means of being born into a high-status family or marrying a high-status man. Some of the lavish ship burials that have been discovered by modern archaeologists were women’s graves.
Women could inherit property, but this only occurred in rather exceptional circumstances, such as the death of all suitable male relatives. There were even a few female poets, but that was very uncommon.
Muslim writers of the period who visited Viking society were frequently astonished at the range of volition Scandinavian women enjoyed, especially the right to divorce their husbands. This testifies to the fact that however bad Norse women may have had it – and they certainly had it quite bad in many ways – women in various other societies of the period had it considerably worse.
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 Wolf, Kirsten. 2004. Viking Age: Everyday Life During the Extraordinary Era of the Norsemen. p. 13-14.
 Ibid. p. 15.
 Ibid. p. 16.
 Ibid. p. 16-17.
 Winroth, Anders. 2014. The Age of the Vikings. p. 165.
 Graham-Campbell, James. 2013. The Viking World. p. 111.
 Wolf, Kirsten. 2004. Viking Age: Everyday Life During the Extraordinary Era of the Norsemen. p. 16.
 Roesdahl, Else. 1998. The Vikings. p. 60.
 Winroth, Anders. 2014. The Age of the Vikings. p. 230-231.
 Price, Neil S. 2002. The Viking Way: Religion and War in Late Iron Age Scandinavia.
 Roesdahl, Else. 1998. The Vikings. p. 59.
 Winroth, Anders. 2014. The Age of the Vikings. p. 161.
 Wolf, Kirsten. 2004. Viking Age: Everyday Life During the Extraordinary Era of the Norsemen. p. 20.
 Roesdahl, Else. 1998. The Vikings. p. 59-60.
 Winroth, Anders. 2014. The Age of the Vikings. p. 233.
 Wolf, Kirsten. 2004. Viking Age: Everyday Life During the Extraordinary Era of the Norsemen. p. 22.